What if not is a semi insane question. It works like this: what if this thing I’m familiar with would NOT be that which I think it to be right now.
Start with these
Shame makes us think we are bad, guilt helps us grow, humiliation makes us angry and embarrassment makes us laugh in the end. Each is a vital feeling, though you can get stuck in shame and that is not a good thing.
Human beings come with three different triggers that activate when we receive feedback. Either we feel that the feedback is unreasonable or simply wrong, it comes from a wrong person or it threatens our identity.
We try to show that we care by giving advice. However when faced with a tough situation we rarely need advice. More often we need someone to be there without judging, pitying or advicing.
When I concentrate on my breathing I’m attached to my body which is attached to this moment. This is necessary starting point to be able to develop your thinking.